The Little Things

by Rhonda, April 19, 2025

My two brothers and I visited our cousin this weekend and decided to stay at a hotel together. Well, we booked separate rooms because I’d rather camp on gravel during a hailstorm than share a room with my brothers.  So, together is a relative term, I suppose.  I guess it is more accurate to say we stayed in a hotel.

One of my brothers brought his son, my sweet seven-year-old nephew along.  Also in-tow was my nephew's trusty scooter, which he parked in the hotel room at night for safe-keeping.  Fast forward to the middle of the night. My brother, half-asleep and probably thinking he was still at home, got up to use the bathroom and he tripped over the scooter and, in his words, bit it hard.  

The next morning at breakfast, he repeated the story to the two of us siblings, “It was bad. I looked down and was sure my leg was gushing blood.”

These things happen to him all of the time, and he usually finds them funny and as he tells us about his latest adventure gone wrong.  Bicycle injures.  Falling down stairs.  You name it, he's done it.  

Now, this brother is the baby of the family, so naturally, his other two siblings demanded a medical review before offering any sympathy.

“Let’s see the leg,” we said.

He pulled up his pant leg with dramatic flair and revealed a scrape. Not a wound. A scrape.

“We don’t see anything,” we said.

“I know there’s not anything there,” he insisted, “but it was hurting bad. I couldn’t fall back asleep for like, forty-five minutes.”

My brother and I smiled at him, and eventually, he said “I think my pain tolerance is going down.  That shouldn't have hurt so bad.”

“A sign of growing older,” we said.  Then we offered to get him a Life Alert in case he falls in the middle of the night again, along with a helmet and knee pads.

As entertaining as this story is, at least to the two of us who didn’t fall over a scooter, I can’t help but think about how often we all trip over things in our daily lives that shouldn’t hurt as much as they do.

Maybe it’s a passing comment that lands a little too hard. A moment of rejection that feels bigger than it ought to. Someone’s tone, a glance, or a word that wasn’t meant to wound but somehow does.  It’s strange, isn’t it? How something small can strike a nerve so deep, it feels like we should be gushing blood, when in reality it is just a scrape. 

Maybe after all we've been through in life, one of the end results is our tolerance isn’t what it used to be—not for pain, not for criticism, and especially not for scooters in the dark. 

The Unexpected Weight of Little Things

A quick word that stings. A glance that feels like rejection. The silence of being overlooked. These are the scooter-in-the-dark moments of life, the ones that don’t seem worthy of grief, but still manage to steal our peace. We trip, lose our footing, and wonder why it hurt more than it should.

But here’s the truth: God cares about all of it. He doesn’t wait for our hearts to break wide open before He draws near. Even the tiniest moments of pain matter to Him.

Scripture reminds us, “Cast all your anxiety on Him, because He cares for you” (1 Peter 5:7). Not just the big, dramatic heartaches, but the subtle, quiet ones too. The emotional paper cuts we carry around. The things we’re tempted to dismiss because they don’t feel “serious enough.”  But, God reminds us we don’t have to bleed to ask for healing.

Not long after my divorce, I had lunch with some friends at a beautiful golf course. The view was stunning with rolling greens, birds chirping, and perfect weather. We sat at an outdoor table, enjoying good food and friendly conversation and I was having a wonderful time.

Then, in the middle of that tranquil moment, the friend across from me smiled and said, “I’d love to introduce you to a friend of mine. She’s divorced too and I thought maybe you two could hang out.”

It was innocent enough, I suppose. But the words hit a nerve.

Why is it that because I’m divorced, I need to be paired off with someone else who’s also divorced? Like we're part of a sad little club we never asked to join. I wasn’t looking for new friends. I didn’t want to be someone's charity project or the token “divorced lady” in someone’s social circle. And honestly, I hated the label.

A small comment, said with kindness, but it felt like a punch to the gut. Like a tiny scrape that suddenly throbbed as if it were gushing blood. I smiled politely and let the conversation move along, but the joy of that beautiful afternoon had slipped away.  It’s strange how something so little can cast such a long shadow. One sentence, and suddenly I was reminded of all the things I didn’t want to feel.  Lonely, different, labeled, wounded. 

God sees what’s beneath the surface. He knows when something small hits a tender place. And He never shames us for being human, for feeling deeply, or for coming to Him with what others might call “too small.” In fact, those are often the places where His gentleness meets us most sweetly.

So if you’ve tripped over something lately, a sharp word, a disappointment, a moment that hurt more than expected, bring it to Him. No pain is too petty for the Savior who numbers the hairs on your head and bottles your every tear.

Even scraped knees matter to a God who stoops low to bandage hearts.



Guarding the Path

“Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.” – Proverbs 4:23

It was just a scooter. A harmless little thing left out on the floor. But in the middle of the night, in a dark hotel room, it became a tripwire. My brother found it the hard way, by moving full speed right into it and tumbling into the kind of pain that kept him from sleeping. And yet, isn’t that so often how life works?

It’s the small things left unattended like quiet resentments, lingering disappointments, or old insecurities that sit like forgotten scooters in the hallways of our hearts.  It doesn't take long for a tiny issue becomes a whole lot bigger when we've already lost our tolerance. A scrape feels like a wound. A momentary offense feels like betrayal. The emotional reaction far outweighs the actual trigger.

It wasn’t the offer to meet a new friend that got under my skin that day on the golf course. In hindsight, it probably came from a kind place.  Maybe the other woman was feeling isolated, and they thought I could come alongside her. 

But in that moment, I didn’t see compassion. I felt categorized. And I bristled.

And the truth is, my reaction was immature. Ridiculous, even. But it was real. Because that comment touched a tender place I hadn’t dealt with yet. The pain wasn’t really about that lunch or that day or that woman I didn’t know. I might have tripped over the scooter in the moment, but the wound happened years ago.

That moment simply revealed I hadn’t healed as much as I thought it had.

That’s why Scripture tells us to guard our hearts above all else. Not because we’re fragile, but because we’re human. Everything we do, everything we say, every relationship we hold all flows from the condition of our hearts. And when we don’t tend to the clutter, it builds up. The heart becomes a tripping hazard zone.

Guarding our hearts doesn’t mean walling ourselves off or living in fear of being hurt. It means paying attention to what’s building up inside. It means asking God to reveal the things we’ve shoved to the corners. The quiet anger. The buried fear. The old grief that still stings. It means clearing the path, not just for ourselves, but for the people who walk through life with us.

Jesus doesn’t just want us to keep going—He wants us to walk in freedom. And sometimes freedom starts with a spiritual decluttering. Laying things down. Forgiving again. Choosing peace over pride. Asking the Holy Spirit to sweep the floor of our souls.

So today, take a look around the hallway of your heart. What have you left out in the open? What have you stepped over one too many times, hoping it won’t trip you again?

Invite God in. Let Him help you guard the path.  Because scraped hearts take longer to heal than scraped knees.

God doesn’t categorize us or reduce us to the chapters of our story we didn’t choose. Divorce, heartbreak, loss—these are real, painful parts of life, but they are not our names. They are not our identities. They are not how Heaven sees us.

Scripture tells us, “The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit” (Psalm 34:18). Not just when we fall apart—but also when we quietly carry the weight of things we’ve never fully grieved.

The world might see a label. God sees a daughter.

He sees beyond the surface, beyond what people say or what we try to pretend doesn’t bother us. He knows where the real wounds are. And He doesn’t flinch. He doesn’t rush us. He simply invites us to bring those places into the light so He can begin to heal what we’ve been tripping over in the dark.

So if you’ve been walking through life trying to step over an old wound, pretending it doesn’t still sting—know this: God’s not calling you “divorced” or “damaged” or “other.” He’s calling you His. Whole. Redeemed. Loved beyond measure.

The world may put you in a category. But God calls you by name.




We’re Not Meant to Be Perfect

Yes, we trip over small things. Yes, our emotions sometimes flare over moments that shouldn’t shake us as much as they do. But here’s the truth: God never expected us to be flawless.  If that were the case, we wouldn't need Jesus.

Take Martha, my Type-A soul sister, for example.

She wasn’t doing anything wrong. She was simply trying to be a good host.  She was setting the table, managing the kitchen, keeping everything in order while Jesus, the Messiah, was sitting in her living room. Her sister Mary, meanwhile, sat at His feet, listening, resting, being still.

And it grated on Martha’s nerves.

Eventually, she snapped. “Lord, don’t you care that my sister has left me to do the work by myself? Tell her to help me!” (Luke 10:40).

It wasn’t a dramatic fall from grace.  It was a small moment of irritation, frustration, feeling unseen. But it revealed something deeper stirring in her heart.

Jesus didn’t scold her. He didn’t say, “You should be better than this.” Instead, He gently said, “Martha, Martha, you are worried and upset about many things, but few things are needed—or indeed only one.”

Martha tripped over the small stuff, like many of us do. And Jesus met her right there, in her distraction and frustration, and pointed her back to what mattered: being with Him. Not being perfect. Not keeping it all together.

And that’s the heart of it. We don’t have to get every moment right. We just need to bring our hearts, our scraped knees, our cluttered emotions, our tangled motives, all back to Him.

He’s not measuring our performance. He’s inviting us into presence.

The Resurrection

by Rhonda, April 11, 2025


I have a cousin who’s just two years older than me.  She's a vibrant soul who has faced a long, grueling battle with cancer. This week, she is in her final days. It’s heartbreaking. She’s still so young, not yet even fifty years old, with so much life and love left in her. 

As I sit here, feeling ridiculous over not feeling well on the way to meet up with friends for a concert, I can’t help but think of her. She’s been in a real fight.  Her fight requires courage, pain, and incredible strength. And now, as her journey comes to an end, those who are by her side say her faith remains unwavering. She’s facing goodbye with grace, surrounded by her husband, her sister, her father, and so many others who love her deeply.

How is it possible that after enduring so much pain, after walking through such relentless suffering with an outcome that feels so unjust, her faith isn't broken?  Instead it is strengthened. How is it possible, in these final moments, when her body is failing and her loved ones are bracing for goodbye, those beside her say her spirits are high?

What kind of God do we serve, who steps into the room at the very moment when we are most undone—when grief is heavy, when hope flickers low—and gently whispers, "You don’t have to carry this anymore. Now, you’ll walk on My strength, not your own."

It’s a sacred exchange: our weakness for His strength, our sorrow for His comfort, our last breath for His eternal embrace.

Sometimes I find myself thinking about my own final days on this earth. I don’t know how or when I’ll leave this temporary home, but one thing I know with certainty: He will be with me. In those last moments, when the world begins to fade and the veil between here and eternity grows thin, He will strengthen me.

I believe that with all my heart. 

I will be about to step into something far more real than anything I've ever known. I’ll be on the threshold of glory, about to see my Savior face to face. Heaven will open wide, and it will be more beautiful, more full of joy and wholeness, than anything I’ve ever dared to dream.  And my cousin will be there, waiting.

You know, we have a Savior who didn’t just talk about life after death, He overcame death itself. Conquered it. Walked right through the grave and came out victorious. And because of that, we can hold on to real hope, even in the midst of deep sorrow.

The Resurrection and the Life: The Story of Lazarus

Jesus said, “I am the resurrection and the life. The one who believes in me will live, even though they die; and whoever lives by believing in me will never die. Do you believe this?”
—John 11:25–26

These words weren’t spoken in a quiet moment of reflection.  They were spoken into the middle of heartbreak. Jesus said them to Martha, whose brother Lazarus had just died. Grief hung heavy in the air. Lazarus had been in the tomb for four days. Hope, from a human standpoint, was gone.

Martha had sent word to Jesus days earlier, begging Him to come, believing He could heal her brother. But Jesus delayed, not out of neglect, but with divine purpose. When He finally arrived in Bethany, Lazarus was already dead, and Martha, full of sorrow and confusion, met Him on the road.

“If you had been here,” she said, “my brother wouldn’t have died.”

Those words held both pain and faith, tightly intertwined. Oh, Martha, Martha, Martha. She’s my soul sister. This wasn’t the first time she’d been exasperated with Jesus.

He was late. Too late, in her eyes, to save Lazarus. Just as He had been, in her mind, too unconcerned to tell Mary to help in the kitchen when the house was full and the to-do list never-ending. Jesus didn’t always move on Martha’s timeline. He didn’t bend to her expectations, no matter how urgent or practical they seemed. 

But here, in the grief-heavy aftermath of her brother’s death, she still came out to meet Him. Still brought her broken heart and confusion to His feet. She believed Jesus could have stopped death, but didn’t yet understand that He had power over it, too.

And this is where Jesus reveals something extraordinary, not just about Lazarus, but about Himself.
“I am the resurrection and the life,” He says.

Not I will be, not I can bring, but I AM. Resurrection is not an event, it’s a person. Jesus Himself is life over death, light in the darkness, hope beyond the grave.

Still, Martha couldn’t have known what was coming. No one there did. Jesus wept with them.  He felt the sting of death, the weight of human sorrow. And then, standing outside the sealed tomb, He called out with a loud voice:

“Lazarus, come forth!”

And Lazarus did. Wrapped in grave clothes, the man who had been dead walked out of the tomb alive. This wasn’t just a miracle, it was a foreshadowing of the ultimate victory that was to come. Jesus didn’t just resuscitate Lazarus. He revealed His authority over death itself.

And just days later, Jesus would prove it again, not by raising another, but by walking out of His own grave.

And isn't that the entire point? That’s the victory. That’s why we needed a Savior.
Because death had always had the final word, until Jesus came and rewrote the ending.

So when He asks, “Do you believe this?”
He’s not just speaking to Martha.
He’s asking us, too.


Jesus, the Lifegiver: The Story of Jairus’ Daughter

Lazarus isn’t the only example of Jesus’ authority over death in the Bible. Long before Jesus called Lazarus out of the tomb, He encountered another desperate situation, one that would become a quiet but powerful display of divine compassion and resurrection power.

There was a man named Jairus, a synagogue leader. He wasn’t just someone from the crowd.  He was highly respected, a man of stature and integrity, likely well-known in the religious community. But that day, Jairus wasn’t standing tall in honor.  He was crumbling in desperation. His daughter, just twelve years old, was dying. And no position, no wealth, no reputation could stop death from coming for her.

So Jairus did the unthinkable for a man in his position.  He threw himself at the feet of Jesus.

“My little daughter is dying. Please come and put your hands on her so that she will be healed and live.”
—Mark 5:23

Jesus didn’t hesitate. He went with him. But on the way, the journey was interrupted.  A woman in the crowd reached out to touch Jesus’ robe and was healed. While Jesus paused to speak to her, Jairus had to wait. Can you imagine the agony? Every second mattered, and Jesus was stopping to talk. Again, Jesus wasn’t working on anyone else’s timeline.

Then came the news no father ever wants to hear:

“Your daughter is dead,” they said. “Why bother the teacher anymore?”
—Mark 5:35

But Jesus overheard and He answered with words that should echo in our hearts when hope feels gone:

“Don’t be afraid; just believe.”
—Mark 5:36

When they arrived at the house, mourners were already gathered, weeping and wailing. But Jesus went inside with just a few disciples and the girl’s parents. He took her lifeless hand in His and said:

“Little girl, I say to you, arise!”
—Mark 5:41

And just like that, she got up and began to walk around.

From the edge of death to life restored. From hopeless mourning to speechless joy. And Jesus? He simply told them to give her something to eat, as if waking a child from sleep was the most natural thing in the world.

Jesus doesn't just respond to power or position.  He responds to faith. He steps into our desperation, even when it seems like it's too late, and He speaks life where there was only loss.  Jairus’ daughter wasn’t too far gone. 

And neither is any situation when Jesus is in it.




As I make plans to visit my cousin and prepare to say what will likely be my final goodbye on this side of heaven, I find myself encouraged by the truths found in Scripture. These biblical stories—these living, breathing testaments of God’s power—are not just ancient accounts. They are anchors for the soul. 

In the face of death, there is a temptation to feel helpless and believe that it is the ultimate end, the final word. But the Bible reminds us over and over again that even death must bow to Jesus. It is not wild or untouchable. It is not sovereign. It is not in control.

Death answers to Christ.
It is under His authority, beneath His power, subject to His voice.

When He said, “Lazarus, come forth,” death had no choice but to let go.
When He took the little girl’s hand and said, “Arise,” breath returned.
When He laid down His own life and rose again three days later, He shattered the chains that had held humanity in fear for generations.

That same Jesus, the one who commands tombs to open and hearts to beat again, is the One who now walks with my cousin. The One who will carry her gently when it’s time to go. And the One who will one day raise her again, whole and radiant, never to suffer again.

So I go to say goodbye with tears, yes, but not without hope.
Because death doesn’t get the last word.
Jesus does.

The Storm

by Rhonda, April 03, 2025


You’re probably tired of hearing me talk about being sick, but here I am again, still wrestling with this relentless virus. It’s been over a week, and I’m still not myself. My ears are completely plugged, the nausea just won’t let up, and honestly... I’ve been downright grouchy. 

Yesterday.


What a day that turned out to be.

We had plans. Big ones. I had taken the day off work. The idea was to pick up my daughter the very minute she clocked out, then hit the road for a four-hour drive to meet up with dear friends at a Christian concert. Everything was timed out to the minute. And if you know anything about Type A personalities (ahem), you know how well I handle delays. Spoiler alert: not very well. And being sick on top of it? Let’s just say, patience was in short supply.

My plan was simple: rest as much as possible during the day so I could rally for the evening drive and somehow enjoy myself at the concert. But rest was not in the cards. My phone rang constantly with one urgent thing after another and by mid-morning, I gave up on sleep. Since I was already up and my ears still felt like they were full of cotton, I decided to head to the doctor. That led to a prescription—which, of course, wasn’t ready yet when I showed up at the pharmacy. "Come back in an hour," they said. 

By the time I picked up the prescription and made it home, any hopes of a nap had vanished.  It was a whirlwind of packing and scrambling. We picked up my daughter right on time, then stopped for food. The wait was longer than expected. Tensions were high. I was frustrated, which made the kids frustrated. Then we ran into bad weather on the drive. On and on, one thing after another tried to throw us off course.

When we finally pulled into the concert venue, we were 45 minutes late. Sweaty, stressed, and worn down, we rushed in trying to shake off the chaos of the day. But then, everything changed.

The moment I stepped inside and heard thousands of voices raised in worship, it was like time stood still. We found our friends, took our seats, and in the sweet presence of God, all the stress melted away. My daughter turned to me and said, “All the stress is gone.” And I looked at her and said, “I know... can you believe it?”.  The kids and I gave each other fist bumps for making it through.

Every obstacle, every delay, every single exhausting moment—it was all worth it.  Because worship has a way of making the battle to get there feel like part of the blessing.

Isn’t it something—how there’s always a battle before the breakthrough?

Peace never seems to arrive quietly. It doesn’t just tiptoe into our lives, gentle and effortless. No, more often than not, peace has to be fought for. It’s a choice. A decision. A hundred little moments where we have to cling to it with white-knuckled faith, even when everything around us begs us to let go.

Jesus said, “My peace I leave with you.” A promise. A gift. But how quickly we forget. How easily we toss that gift aside the minute life gets hard. The moment plans fall apart, or sickness lingers, or stress starts climbing in through every open window, we let peace slip right through our fingers. We scramble for control, complain about the chaos, eat a bag of Cheetos (just me?) and forget the very peace that was ours to begin with.

It’s almost like we expect peace to come without resistance, as if we won’t have to choose it over and over again in the middle of the mess.  But maybe that’s the point. Maybe peace that’s fought for is peace that’s felt more deeply. Maybe it’s in the very struggle, the decisions we make to trust God anyway, that we discover a peace not of this world.  A peace that steadies our hearts even when the storm rages on.

And when we finally get to the other side—when the breakthrough comes, when the moment settles and we realize His peace held—we see it for what it truly is.

Not something fragile.

1.  It is possible to have peace in the storm. 

Jesus showed us that. Literally.

He was on a boat with His disciples in the middle of a furious storm.  Waves were crashing, winds were howling, and the boat was being tossed like a toy. The disciples were panicked, convinced they were going to die. And where was Jesus?

Sleeping.

Not pacing. Not instructing. Not worrying. Just... sleeping.

I often think about what it took for Him to be that calm. How physically exhausted must He have been to sleep through a storm like that? But, also, how spiritually anchored was He to rest so completely in the middle of chaos? That kind of rest doesn’t come from sleep alone, but from deep, unwavering trust in the Father.

That moment wasn’t just about the storm on the sea.  It was a picture of the storms we face every day. Fear. Illness. Uncertainty. Delays. Disappointment. And yet Jesus models what it looks like to carry peace inside, even when everything outside is shaking.

When Jesus awoke in that boat, He didn’t match the disciples' panic. He didn’t join their anxiety or scold them for waking Him up. He simply stood, spoke to the storm, and said, “Peace, be still.” And immediately, the wind died down and the sea was calm (Mark 4:39).

Then He turned to His disciples and asked, “Why are you so afraid? Do you still have no faith?” (Mark 4:40).

That question wasn’t harsh.  It was an invitation. An invitation to trust. To believe that the same Jesus who could sleep in the storm also had the power to calm it.  Peace isn’t the absence of the storm. It’s the presence of Jesus in it.  It’s knowing Who is in the boat with you.  And it’s trusting that He isn’t just able to calm the storm around you, but the storm within you, too.  

I’ve been thinking a lot about that four-hour drive to the concert.  How different could it have been if I had simply chosen peace?

We literally drove through a storm, with sheets of rain pouring down, gray skies pressing low.  But in many ways, the real storm wasn’t outside the car.  It was inside me. The pressure of being on time, the stress of the delays, the lingering frustration from being sick... it all bubbled just under the surface. And instead of letting it go, I let it lead. I let anxiety take the front seat, and peace never even made it into the car.

But what if I had chosen differently?

What if I had trusted God in the middle of the mess? What if I had turned the rain into a reminder that He washes everything clean, including my frayed nerves and heavy thoughts? What if I had leaned into that time with my kids, those uninterrupted hours on the road, and treated it like the gift it was? We could have laughed more, connected more deeply, shared music, memories, or quiet moments. I could have made space in my heart for peace to rise instead of letting anxiety run wild.

I had the opportunity to grow peace within me. To water it, to nurture it, even while the skies outside were dark. But I let the weather dictate my mood. I let the disruptions steal what could have been sacred.

And yet, God is gracious.

Even in my flustered, frustrated state, He met me the moment I stepped into that concert. The storm didn’t win. His peace did. But still, I’m learning—peace is always an option. It doesn’t wait for perfect conditions. It’s available in the delay, in the rain, in the unexpected. It’s a choice, and sometimes a fight, but it’s never out of reach.

Next time, I want to choose differently.  I want to notice the sacred even in the stressful.  Because peace isn’t found when everything finally goes right.  It’s found when I finally surrender to the One who’s already in control.



2.  Sometimes peace requires us to unplug.

 After all the chaos of the day, after the stress and the scrambling, the concert was exactly what my soul needed. Worship was powerful. The fellowship was sweet. God’s presence felt so near. That night, we reserved a nice hotel room.  It was a little splurge, and honestly, a small miracle that it turned out to be so quiet and serene. Outside the window, the countryside stretched out in calm, rolling hills. I went to bed peaceful, thankful, and feeling completely in tune with the Lord.

But then, 3:00 a.m. rolled around.

I woke up like a match had been struck in the dark.  My heart was racing, my mind was spinning, my emotions were tangled up in a ball of frustration, anger, and what I can only describe as anxiety. It came out of nowhere. One minute I was resting, the next I was wide awake, mentally replaying every problem waiting for me at work on Monday. Keep in mind—it was still Saturday night.

I tossed and turned, trying to pray my way back to sleep. “Lord, just give me the solutions. Help me think through everything now so I can rest.” I wanted a download of answers. I wanted peace through clarity.  But what I felt instead was a whisper from the Holy Spirit:

“The solutions will come—but you must unplug.”

Unplug.

At first, I wasn’t sure if I was really hearing from God. Does this align with the way Jesus lived?

And yes—yes, it does.

There are multiple times in the Gospels where Jesus stepped away from the crowds, the demands, even His closest friends, to be alone with the Father. One of the most striking examples is found in Mark 1:35:

“Very early in the morning, while it was still dark, Jesus got up, left the house and went off to a solitary place, where He prayed.”

This wasn’t a one-time moment of quiet. It was a rhythm in Jesus’ life. In the middle of miracles, teachings, and people constantly pulling on Him for healing, guidance, and attention—Jesus unplugged. He intentionally stepped away from the noise to be refreshed by communion with His Father.

If Jesus needed that space, how much more do we?

Peace doesn’t always come from having all the answers. Sometimes it comes from stepping away long enough to hear God’s heartbeat again.  From letting the to-do list go quiet.  From choosing presence over productivity.

You can be unplugged physically, and still be completely plugged in mentally.  My body was in the right place. But my mind? My heart? They were tangled in the “what ifs,” the Monday meetings, the deadlines, the weight of everything I couldn’t control. And in that moment, fear began to rise—not because of where I was, but because of where I had let my thoughts go. I was meditating on my problems instead of on the God who promised to carry me through them.

I realized then—being in the right place physically is one thing.
But being in the right place spiritually?
That’s a whole different battle.

That requires trust. That requires faith. It demands a surrender so deep that you stop clinging to the illusion of control and start leaning fully into the hands of your Father. We plan, we strive, we overthink, but in the end, every detail of our lives rests in the hands of the One who never sleeps or panics or forgets.

That night, lying in a dark hotel room with a countryside view and a tangled mind, I realized I didn’t need a spreadsheet of solutions. I needed stillness. I needed to let go of the weight I was carrying and trust that God would give me what I needed when I needed it.

Unplugging, real unplugging, isn’t about booking a spa day or finding a quiet place to sit under a tree—though those can help. It’s about refreshing our faith. It’s about reminding our souls that no weapon formed against us will prosper (Isaiah 54:17), and that the battle we're losing sleep over? It already belongs to the Lord (2 Chronicles 20:15).

When we unplug spiritually, we shift our focus.
From the storm to the Savior.
From the problem to the Provider.
From our limited strength to His limitless power.

God loves us tremendously. Not for what we produce or accomplish, but simply because we are His. Every single day is an invitation to notice that love, to see the fingerprints of His care if we’ll just look in the right place.

So the next time anxiety comes knocking at 3:00 a.m., or fear tries to invade a peaceful moment, pause and ask yourself:
Am I really unplugged? Or am I just physically present, while mentally and spiritually plugged into fear?

Because peace isn't found in our circumstances.
It's found in our connection to the One who never changes.



3: God is bigger than our worries.

Worry is such a sneaky thing. It creeps in quietly, often disguised as responsibility or preparedness, but before we know it, it’s running the show.  It runs around, controlling our thoughts, stealing our peace, and casting shadows over our days. But Jesus didn’t leave us without direction. He addressed worry head-on.

In John 14:1, Jesus tells His disciples:

“Do not let your hearts be troubled. Trust in God; trust also in Me.”

That wasn’t just a suggestion.  It was a loving command, and Jesus wouldn’t command us to do something that was impossible. He knew the weight this world would place on us. He knew the temptation we’d face to carry burdens that don’t belong to us. But He also knew the power of trust. Real, deep, childlike trust in a Father who never fails.

Worry often makes us live as if we’re orphans, as if we’re navigating this world alone, with no one looking out for us. But that couldn’t be further from the truth. We are not fatherless. We are not abandoned. We are children of a good, attentive, all-knowing God who takes care of us day in and day out.

He knows the number of hairs on your head.
He sees your needs before you even speak them.
And He’s already working behind the scenes in ways you can’t yet see.

Isaiah 54:17 reminds us that “no weapon formed against you shall prosper.” Not the weapon of fear. Not the weapon of anxiety. Not even the weapon of your worst-case scenario thoughts. God is already protecting you in ways you can’t measure.

The truth is, knowing we have that kind of Father, one who walks with us through the darkest valleys, one who never leaves our side, changes everything. It allows us to live a life of confidence and security, not because life is perfect, but because our Father is present.

Did you know that the Bible tells us “Do not fear” 365 times? One time for every single day of the year. God isn’t oblivious to our struggles. He knows how easily we are swept away by the chaos, negativity, and fear this world throws at us. And yet He continues to invite us back into peace.

It is possible to live free from fear.
It is possible to unplug your mind from that exhausting loop of “what ifs.”
And it is possible to live as someone who truly believes they are loved, protected, and cared for, every single day.

Because you are.

You have a heavenly Father who has never stopped watching over you, even for a second. And when that truth becomes real in your heart—not just something you say, but something you believe—it changes the way you live. It changes the way you think. It changes the way you breathe through the hard moments.

Worry may come knocking, but you don’t have to let it stay.
You can trust. You can rest.
And that kind of faith? It’s life-changing.





The Savior

by Rhonda, March 26, 2025




I’ve been under the weather this past week, and let me tell you—whatever viruses are making the rounds this year, they are downright relentless. It’s as if they’ve taken up residence and refuse to leave. Maybe it’s just me getting older, and my body doesn’t bounce back as quickly as it used to. Either way, I’ve had my fill of sniffles, sore throats, and lingering fatigue. This cold and flu season has overstayed its welcome, and I am more than ready to turn the page on it.

After three days confined to bed, I finally dragged myself back to work today. The thought alone filled me with dread. I knew what awaited me.  A mountain of unread emails stacked like a digital tower of doom. My calendar didn’t offer any mercy either. Two high-stress meetings loomed ahead, both promising uncomfortable confrontations.  Those are exactly the kind of scenarios I loathe. My body was still aching, sluggish from the lingering effects of this relentless virus. 

I whispered a prayer, my heart heavy and anxious. I asked God for help—begging Him to give me the strength I lacked, to carry me through the day that loomed ahead. I pleaded with Him to let things go smoothly, especially those two meetings that had been gnawing at my peace for days. And in the quiet of that moment, God—steadfast and endlessly loving—met me right where I was. He reminded me, as only He can, that He bestows favor on His children. I wasn’t alone. I had nothing to fear.

It’s a familiar rhythm, one that God and I know all too well. The cycle begins with me, anxious and overwhelmed, heart pounding under the weight of failure. I cry out to Him, desperate for help, fully aware that I can’t make it on my own. And then, as He always does, He steps in with quiet power and lavish grace. He smooths the path before me, grants me favor in the very places I feared would undo me, and carries me through the day with a strength that isn’t mine. By the end, I’m left in awe—again—at how everything turned out just fine. Not because of me, but because my God is endlessly good, relentlessly faithful. I often wonder how many times we’ve danced this same dance. Hundreds? No… more likely thousands.

God is, in every sense of the word, a Savior—and not just once, but continually, faithfully, relentlessly. He is always stepping in to rescue us: from the snares of the enemy, from the weight and corruption of the world, from calamities we never saw coming, and often, from the wreckage of our own making. Over and over again, He comes through—shielding, guiding, redeeming. The more I reflect on His role as Savior, the more I’m overwhelmed by the depth of His love and the power of His deliverance. Scripture is full of stories that showcase His dramatic, tender, and awe-inspiring acts of salvation. Here are three of my favorites—narratives that beautifully reveal just how far He will go to rescue those He loves.

1.  King Jehoshaphat

King Jehoshaphat stands out as one of the most compelling rulers in Judah’s history—a man of courage, conviction, and deep devotion to God. Unlike many of the kings who came before him, Jehoshaphat didn’t chase after idols or rely on political cunning. Instead, he aligned himself with the legacy of King David, passionately seeking the Lord with a whole heart. At a time when the northern kingdom of Israel had plunged headlong into idolatry and spiritual decay, Jehoshaphat chose a different path. He led Judah in a spiritual revival, tearing down pagan altars and calling the people back to the worship of the one true God.

But wholehearted devotion didn’t spare him from hardship. Far from it. In the midst of his faithful leadership, Jehoshaphat received news that shook him to the core: a massive alliance of enemy armies was marching straight toward Judah. They were vast in number—far too many for Judah to stand against. Their intentions were clear and brutal—destruction, conquest, and complete annihilation. Humanly speaking, there was no hope. Judah was outnumbered, outmatched, and facing what looked like certain defeat.  

News of the approaching armies spread quickly through the land, stirring panic and dread. Jehoshaphat could have reacted like many kings might—by scrambling to rally his forces, calling for military reinforcements, or trying to negotiate a desperate alliance. But instead, he did something far more powerful.

He called the nation to seek the Lord.

Jehoshaphat proclaimed a fast throughout all Judah. People from every town gathered in Jerusalem, standing shoulder to shoulder in the temple courtyard. Children, elders, families—they all came, eyes wide with fear, hearts aching with uncertainty. And there, in front of the entire assembly, their king stood—not in armor, not behind a war table, but with hands lifted in surrender and a voice lifted in prayer.

“O Lord, God of our fathers, are You not the God who is in heaven? You rule over all the kingdoms of the nations... We have no power to face this vast army that is attacking us. We do not know what to do, but our eyes are on You.”
—2 Chronicles 20:6,12

It was a prayer not of pride, but of raw honesty. No strategic plans. No false bravado. Just total dependence on the only One who could save them.

And God answered.

Through a prophet named Jahaziel, the Spirit of the Lord spoke words that must have sent chills down every spine:

“Do not be afraid or discouraged because of this vast army. For the battle is not yours, but God’s.”

The next morning, instead of sharpening swords or preparing for bloodshed, Jehoshaphat did the unthinkable—he appointed singers to go ahead of the army, praising the beauty of God’s holiness. As the first notes of worship rose into the air, something miraculous happened.

God set ambushes among the enemy armies. Confusion spread like wildfire. They turned on each other in chaos and fury until not one enemy remained.  By the time Judah reached the battlefield, all they found were lifeless bodies and untouched plunder. Not a single sword had to be lifted. Not a single drop of Judah’s blood was spilled.

When the dust settled and the battlefield lay silent, Judah stood in awe of what had just occurred. Not only had God delivered them from what seemed like certain destruction, but He had turned their battlefield into a blessing field. For three days, the people gathered the spoils—riches, goods, and valuables the enemy had left behind. It was far more than they could carry. The battle they never had to fight left them more blessed than broken, more enriched than emptied.

On the fourth day, they assembled in a valley that would be forever known as the Valley of Berakah—which means blessing. There, they praised the Lord with grateful hearts and lifted voices. What began in fear ended in worship, not because of what they had done, but because of what God had done on their behalf.

From that day forward, surrounding nations heard what had happened—how the God of Judah had fought for His people. And fear fell on them. None dared attack, because it was clear that Judah's God was not just present—He was powerful, protective, and faithful.

Jehoshaphat's story isn’t just history—it's a mirror. It shows us what it means to be human and holy at the same time: to feel fear, yet choose faith. He didn’t pretend to be strong; he admitted his weakness. He didn’t hide behind a throne; he stood before God in humility. And that posture, one of surrendered trust, became the platform for a miracle.

How often do we face battles where the odds feel stacked against us? Where anxiety creeps in, and our plans seem powerless? Like Jehoshaphat, we may say, “I don’t know what to do…” But also like him, we can declare, “…but my eyes are on You.”

God still fights battles for His children. He still responds to hearts that seek Him. He still brings victory through worship, peace through surrender, and blessing through brokenness.  The same God who parted seas, knocked down walls, and scattered enemy armies is still moving today. And He’s not waiting for us to be strong.  He’s waiting for us to look up and believe.

2.  Daniel

Daniel was a man of unwavering devotion—steady, faithful, and fearless in his walk with God. Over the years, he had risen through the ranks of Babylon’s vast empire, eventually earning a place of high honor under King Darius. His reputation was spotless. He was known for his wisdom, integrity, and excellence in every task. Not even his enemies—those who watched him closely, hoping to uncover some flaw or scandal—could find a single blemish in his character.

But their jealousy burned hotter with each promotion he received, their resentment festering in the shadows. It wasn’t enough that Daniel was blameless—they wanted him gone. Silenced. Removed from the king’s favor once and for all. And since there was no fault to be found in his conduct or leadership, they turned their eyes to the one place they knew he’d never compromise: his faith. If they were going to trap Daniel, it would have to be there—at the very heart of who he was.

With careful words and cunning smiles, Daniel’s enemies approached King Darius, appealing to his pride. They proposed a decree cloaked in flattery: for thirty days, no one in the kingdom could pray to any god or human being—except the king himself. Anyone who disobeyed would be thrown into a den of lions. It sounded like a show of loyalty, a way to unite the kingdom under the king’s authority. Blinded by their praise and unaware of their true motives, Darius agreed and signed the order into law, sealing it with the weight of royal authority. It was a trap, crafted with precision, and Daniel was the target.

But Daniel didn’t flinch.

When he heard the decree had been signed, he didn’t run.  Instead, he climbed the stairs to his room, where the windows opened wide toward Jerusalem—the city of his heart. And there, in plain view, he knelt down. Not once. Not hurriedly. But three times a day, as he had always done. With steady hands and a quiet spirit, he gave thanks to his God, lifting his voice in worship and prayer.

It didn’t take long for the trap to spring.

Daniel’s enemies, lying in wait, wasted no time. The moment they saw him praying—just as they knew he would—they raced to the king, cloaking their malice in concern for the law. “O King, didn’t you sign a decree?” they asked, voices slick with false reverence. “A law stating that anyone who prays to any god or man other than you must be thrown into the lions’ den?”

The king, not yet sensing the trap, affirmed the decree. And then they sprang it.

“Daniel,” they said. “That Hebrew exile. He continues to pray to his God—three times a day.”

In that moment, realization washed over Darius like a wave of dread. He saw it—the setup, the betrayal—and worst of all, he knew he’d been outmaneuvered. He was devastated. Though Daniel was his most trusted official, the law of the Medes and Persians could not be revoked. All day long, the king tried to find a loophole, a way to save Daniel, but by sundown, he had no choice.

With a heavy heart and reluctant hands, King Darius ordered that Daniel be brought forward.

Soldiers led him through the torch-lit corridors, past the hushed whispers of onlookers. They brought him to the edge of a massive pit, the stench of wild animals thick in the air. Below, the lions stirred—restless, hungry.

As they prepared to lower Daniel into the den, the king spoke—his voice breaking with emotion:

“May your God, whom you serve continually, rescue you.” —Daniel 6:16

Then, the stone was rolled over the opening, sealing Daniel inside. The king’s signet was pressed into the wax, binding the decree. Darius returned to his palace, but sleep fled from him. He refused food, music, or comfort. His thoughts were with Daniel, tormented by the consequences of his own actions.

All through the night, the lions roamed. But Daniel did not scream. He did not perish. Because God had already stepped in.

As the first light of dawn crept over the city, King Darius rose from a sleepless night and hurried toward the lions’ den. He didn’t wait for his royal attendants or protocol—his steps were urgent, his heart pounding with a mixture of fear and fragile hope.

When he reached the sealed stone, his voice rang out into the darkness, cracking with desperation:

“Daniel, servant of the living God, has your God, whom you serve continually, been able to rescue you from the lions?” —Daniel 6:20

For a moment, there was only silence. Then, rising from the depths of the den came a calm and steady voice—the voice of the very man he feared had been lost:

“May the king live forever! My God sent His angel, and He shut the mouths of the lions. They have not hurt me, because I was found innocent in His sight. Nor have I ever done any wrong before you, Your Majesty.” —Daniel 6:21–22

Relief flooded the king’s face. He immediately ordered that Daniel be lifted from the pit. As the ropes pulled him up into the light, everyone could see—there wasn’t a single scratch on him. No claw marks. No wounds. No bruises. Because Daniel had trusted in his God, and God had sent an angel to protect him through the night.

But the story didn’t end there.

King Darius, now fully aware of the wicked scheme, commanded that Daniel’s accusers—the very men who had plotted against him—be thrown into the lions’ den themselves. And this time, no divine angel stood guard. The lions overpowered them before they even touched the floor.

Then, Darius did something remarkable. He issued a new decree—not one of pride or punishment, but of praise:

“I issue a decree that in every part of my kingdom people must fear and reverence the God of Daniel.
For He is the living God and He endures forever;
His kingdom will not be destroyed, His dominion will never end.
He rescues and He saves;
He performs signs and wonders in the heavens and on the earth.
He has rescued Daniel from the power of the lions.”
—Daniel 6:26–27

Daniel’s story is a breathtaking testimony of what God will do for His children. Even when the law is against you. Even when you’re thrown into the pit. Even when the night is long and the danger is real.

God does not forget His own.
He still sends angels.
He still shuts the mouths of lions.
And He still brings His people out of dark places, untouched and unshaken.

3.  Jesus

I cannot speak of God’s faithfulness to save without turning to the most extraordinary rescue narrative of all—the heart of Scripture, the center of our hope. From the dawn of time, even before the first sin stained Eden, God had already written a plan of redemption. A plan not scribbled hastily in response to our failures, but lovingly designed before the foundations of the world—a plan to send His Son.

Long before Roman soldiers drove nails through His hands or sealed His lifeless body behind a stone, Jesus had already chosen the path of sacrifice. He stepped out of heaven, not with trumpet blasts or royal procession, but in the stillness of a Bethlehem night. No crown adorned His head—just straw and swaddling clothes. The King of Kings was born in a manger, wrapped not in silk, but in humility.

He walked among us, breathing the same air, feeling the same dust beneath His feet. His hands reached for the sick, the shunned, the forgotten. His eyes saw hearts others overlooked. He spoke truth so piercing it unsettled the proud, yet so tender it restored the broken. He never sinned. Not once. And yet, with every step, He carried the weight of a mission no other soul could bear—a mission to redeem all of humanity.

But the rescue would cost Him everything.

On a dark hill outside Jerusalem, the innocent Son of God hung on a Roman cross. Nails tore through His hands and feet. Thorns crowned His head. And as He hung there, bruised and bloodied, the full weight of humanity’s sin crushed down on Him. He could have called angels. He could have stepped down. But He stayed.

“No one takes it from me, but I lay it down of my own accord.” —John 10:18

Jesus died willingly—in our place—so that we could be free.

He was nailed to rough timber, suspended between earth and sky. The crowd jeered, the sky darkened, and even the earth trembled. Every breath was agony. Every heartbeat a sacrifice. And yet, He endured it all. For us. For love.

“It is finished,” He cried—not in defeat, but in victory. The debt of sin, paid in full.
And then He gave up His spirit.

His lifeless body was wrapped and laid in a borrowed tomb. A heavy stone sealed the entrance. Roman guards stood watch. And for three days, it seemed like darkness had won.

But heaven was not silent.

On the third day, the stone was rolled away. The grave could not hold the Author of Life. Jesus rose—not as a battered victim, but as a conquering King. He defeated sin. He crushed death. He shattered the grip of the enemy once and for all.

This wasn’t just a rescue—it was the rescue. The turning point of history. The moment when mercy triumphed over judgment, and love proved stronger than the grave.

And yet, the story doesn’t end in death. On the third day, the stone rolled away, and the tomb stood empty. Jesus rose, victorious over sin, death, and the grave. The greatest rescue mission in history was complete. Through His sacrifice, God stepped in—not just to save us from temporary danger, but to offer eternal life to all who believe.

If that isn’t a Savior, I don’t know what is.

His sacrifice wasn’t a one-time act locked in history—it echoes through eternity, reaching into today, into this very moment. His love, poured out on the cross, still flows with power. It saves us now, and it will save us tomorrow. It covers every sin, every failure, every wound we try to hide.

This kind of love is otherworldly—too pure for our shadowed world, too steadfast for the shifting sands of human affection. And yet, it endures. Through every betrayal, every doubt, every broken promise, His love remains—unshaken, unyielding, unmatched.

Our God is not distant. He does not shrink from the dark corners of our lives. He steps in—boldly, lovingly—to save us from it all. From the secrets we’re too ashamed to speak aloud. From the sins that weigh us down and whisper lies. From the tragedies that threaten to steal our hope.

He doesn’t just save our souls, He restores our hearts. He meets us in the mess, walks with us through the fire, and promises that one day, every scar will be healed.

There will come a day—soon—when every tear we’ve cried will be wiped away by His own hand. A day when grief gives way to glory. When suffering dissolves into joy. When we stand face-to-face with the One who rescued us, not because we earned it, but because He couldn’t bear to leave us lost.

And we will live with Him. Forever. Whole. Free. Loved.

The Roots

by Rhonda, March 23, 2025

Adjusting to city life is like learning to drive a stick shift—awkward at first, but eventually, you figure out the rhythm. There are definite perks to apartment living. For example, when my blinds refused to cooperate the other day, I didn’t have to pretend I knew what I was doing with a toolbox. Nope. I simply called maintenance, and voilà! A guy showed up, fixed them, and left, all without me having to lift a finger. That, my friends, is the height of luxury.

However, there is one thing my apartment lacks: a yard. No grass, no open space—just a balcony that screams, “Congratulations, you now own 12 square feet of the great outdoors!” But I refused to be defeated. I scoured Amazon and found a deal on some fake grass tiles. Click, buy, deliver. A few days later, I had my own lush, green (plastic) oasis right on my balcony. And the best part? No mowing, no watering, and no fear of stepping barefoot onto something nature never intended.

But then, the weather decided to remind me who’s boss. It’s storm and tornado season in this fine part of the U.S. of A., and last night, the wind roared through the city like it was auditioning for a role in Twister 2. As the gusts howled, I suddenly realized my “yard” wasn’t exactly anchored to the earth. A troubling vision struck me: my beloved fake grass tiles taking flight like a flock of synthetic geese, scattering across the street, while I, clad in pajamas and wild hair that might indicate questionable life choices, scrambled downstairs in the middle of a tornado warning to reclaim my backyard.

Thankfully, the tiles stayed put. This time. But now, I have a new fear to add to my list—losing my entire lawn to a particularly aggressive gust of wind. Turns out, even maintenance-free grass has its downsides.

There are times when fake is perfectly acceptable—sometimes even preferable. I’ve got fake grass tiles creating the illusion of a lush little yard. My nails? Also fake, because let’s be honest, they look way better than my natural ones ever could. And for those who enjoy a little luxury on a budget, a knockoff Rolex or a designer-inspired handbag can do the trick without breaking the bank.

But when it comes to God, an imitation will never suffice. There’s no substitute, no convincing replica, no close second. Nothing in existence can even begin to resemble the real thing. God is the real deal—unchanging, unmatched, and impossible to duplicate.

Humanity will grasp at anything to fill the emptiness in our hearts. We chase after money, hoping it will buy happiness. We turn to a variety of endless vices, searching for escape. We crave approval, obsess over attractiveness, and scroll endlessly through social media, convincing ourselves that validation lies just one more like or comment away.

But no matter how tightly we cling to these things, they never quite settle in the soul the way we expect. Because when the storms of life come rushing in—when hardship, heartbreak, or loss blow through—these flimsy substitutes scatter like my balcony tiles in the wind, leaving us right back where we started.

If you want to stay firmly grounded in what’s real—strong enough to withstand the storms life throws your way, whether it’s the loss of a loved one, the heartbreak of divorce, the devastation of financial ruin, or any of the countless trials that come with being human—here are a few essential truths to hold onto.

1.  Healing Is Often A Slow Miracle

When you’re walking through the storms of life, remember that healing and freedom don’t always come in an instant. Sometimes, God works in steps, peeling back layers of pain, reshaping your heart, and teaching you lessons along the way. The process may feel long, even frustrating, but trust that He is working in ways you can’t always see. You can’t rush His timing, but you can remain faithful—praying, trusting, and holding onto the truth that God is still a God of miracles, no matter how long the journey takes.

Healing from my divorce has been a slow, unfolding miracle—one that has tested my patience and my faith in ways I never expected. The pain and anxiety had a way of dragging me back, forcing me to relive the worst moments over and over again, like a cruel loop I couldn’t escape. My mind became a battleground of “what ifs” and unanswered questions. What if we had done this differently? What if I hadn’t said that? Why did he make that choice? I searched desperately for an alternate ending, one that never existed, replaying every detail as if I could rewrite the past.

Night after night, sleep slipped through my fingers. Day after day, I carried the weight of it, exhausted from a battle I fought entirely within my own mind. Healing didn’t come all at once. It came in slow, quiet moments and choices—through prayers whispered in the dark, through tears that eventually ran dry, and through the steady realization that no amount of revisiting the past would ever change it.

I also had to learn to extend grace to myself. Healing isn’t a straight path, and it certainly isn’t a test of endurance where I either pass or fail. Some days, I felt strong, full of hope, ready to move forward. Other days, I felt like I was drowning in grief, wondering if I’d ever feel whole again. And that’s okay. God never expected me to have it all together. He wasn’t measuring my progress against some invisible timeline. He simply asked me to keep trusting Him, even on the days when I felt like I was falling apart.

My balcony tiles, those little patches of fake grass, had no roots to hold them down, and when the winds howled through, they had nothing to stop them from scattering like leaves in a storm. But God is doing the opposite in me—He’s planting something real, something lasting. With every step of healing, He’s growing roots deep within my soul, anchoring me in His truth, in His presence, in His love.

And that’s what He wants for all of us—not a surface-level faith that lifts away the moment hardship strikes, but a deeply rooted relationship with Him, one that holds firm no matter how fierce the winds may blow.

2. Roots Must Develop First

Have you ever watched a towering oak tree stand firm during a raging storm? These trees can live for hundreds of years, their massive branches stretching toward the sky, unshaken by the wind. But what makes them so strong isn’t just what you see above the ground—it’s what’s hidden beneath.

Oak trees are known for their deep, intricate root systems that anchor them securely in the earth, allowing them to survive droughts, storms, and shifting seasons. But here’s something remarkable: before they ever produce a single acorn, they spend 20 to 30 years growing and establishing their roots. That’s right—decades pass before any fruit appears. While their growth may seem slow to the outside world, beneath the surface, something powerful is happening. They are building a foundation strong enough to sustain them for centuries—some living between 600 to 1,000 years.

Their resilience isn’t an accident. It’s a result of the time and patience it took to grow deep roots before anything visible took shape. The tree had to be established before it could bear fruit.

In the same way, don’t get discouraged if your spiritual life doesn’t appear “successful” by outward standards. Growth isn’t always flashy. Sometimes, it’s quiet, slow, and unseen—happening deep within the soul, where God is strengthening and preparing you. The hardest seasons, the ones that feel like nothing is happening, are often the very moments when God is planting the deepest roots. And just like the oak, in time, you’ll bear fruit—but only after the foundation is strong enough to hold it.

Think about my fake grass tiles. They’re vibrant, perfectly green, and effortless to maintain. They never need watering, never grow weeds, and always look pristine. But here’s the thing—they’re not real. They’ve never pushed roots into the earth, never drawn life from the soil, never endured a single season of growth. So when the wind comes roaring through, they don’t stand a chance. They lift, scatter, and disappear like they were never there at all.  And by the way, they can't produce fruit.  

We can be the same way. We can show up to church every Sunday, say all the right things, and flash the biggest, most convincing smile. On the surface, it looks good—polished, effortless, put together. But if our faith is only for show, if it’s never been rooted deep, it won’t sustain us. When the storms of life hit, a plastic, surface-level faith won’t hold. It won’t keep us steady. It won’t heal our wounds.

Real faith, the kind that lasts, isn’t about looking the part—it’s about being deeply anchored in God. It’s about trusting Him in the unseen, in the struggles, in the waiting. Because only faith that has taken root will stand firm when the winds begin to blow.

3.  We Need To Be In God's Presence.

Divorce in particular has a way of cracking open a door that temptation is all too eager to slip through. Rejection always does. It whispers lies, offering easy exits and quick fixes to numb the pain. It tells us there’s a way to outrun the heartbreak, a way to silence the ache without ever having to face it.

The temptation comes in many forms. The urge to rush into a relationship with someone—anyone—just to fill the empty space where love used to be. The pull toward substances we never would have considered before, just to dull the weight of reality. The quiet compromise of our values, our boundaries—our very selves—just to feel wanted again. The endless distractions we pile on, keeping our hands busy and our minds preoccupied, hoping that if we just keep moving, we won’t have to feel the depth of our loss.

And that’s exactly how the enemy works. In times of distress, his greatest tactic is to convince us that anywhere is better than the presence of God. That staying where we are—sitting with our grief, waiting on healing, trusting in a slow miracle—is unbearable. That we need something else, something faster, something to make us feel better right now. He whispers that relief is just one impulsive decision away.

Feeling restless? Maybe a new job, a new city, a new relationship will fix it. Feeling empty? Chase the next thrill, the next distraction, anything to fill the void. Feeling pain? Numb it. Escape it. Avoid it at all costs. Do whatever it takes to sidestep the discomfort, to avoid pressing into God, because surely, anywhere is better than waiting in His presence… right?

That’s the lie. And it’s a convincing one. Because when we’re hurting, the last thing we want to do is sit still and trust. But no quick fix, no counterfeit comfort, no temporary relief will ever bring real healing. They only delay it. The only One who can truly restore, truly mend, and truly redeem our brokenness is the Lord Himself. His presence isn’t just a place to endure the pain—it’s the only place where true healing begins.

I don’t know about you, but I’d rather face the heartache head-on and let it shape me into something stronger. Let it do its work. Let it dig deep and grow roots that will hold steady, even if that growth is painfully slow. Even if it takes years before I see any fruit, at least I’ll know I’ve started down the road to real healing.

If the beginning is slow, so be it. If it takes time—more time than I want—so be it. Because five years from now, I can either find myself stuck in the same place, circling the same pain, grasping for the same empty comforts, or I can look back and see how far I’ve come. I can see roots that have pushed deeper, strength that has multiplied, and faith that has held firm through every storm. The choice isn’t in how fast the healing comes. 

The choice is in whether I let it take root at all.

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The Mourning Dove

by Rhonda, March 11, 2025

Last weekend, church felt very meaningful to me. From the first note of worship to the final amen, something stirred within me. The sermon wasn’t just words—it was a call to reflection, a gentle but firm nudge to look at my life through the lens of eternity. It made me pause, made me think. Was I truly living with purpose, or had I let the weight of routine dull the significance of each day?

By the time I walked back out into the afternoon air, I felt different—renewed, challenged. It was the kind of service that reminds you that God is God, that our time here isn’t just about the daily grind. We are meant for more. We are here for a purpose. And that realization changes everything.

I arrived home to our small apartment, the familiar creak of the door welcoming me as I stepped inside. But before I could set down my keys, something unusual caught my eye. Just beyond the glass, perched on the edge of my little balcony sitting couch, sat a mourning dove.

For a moment, I stood frozen, taken aback by the sight. Birds aren’t a common presence here in the city—not like they were in the countryside, where I used to scatter seed and watch them gather. That was one of the things I had missed the most since we sold our home, the simple joy of their company.

And yet, here she was. Soft gray feathers, dark eyes watchful, her tiny body still as if she belonged there. She sat so close to the window that, for a fleeting second, it felt as though I could reach out and touch her. It was a quiet, unexpected gift—a reminder of something I thought I had left behind, finding its way back to me.

Curious, I reached for my phone and began searching. Mourning doves, it seemed, carried deep spiritual meaning. They were symbols of peace, renewal, and—most striking of all—new beginnings. Some even associated them with the resurrection of Jesus Christ.

I absorbed the significance. Just minutes ago, I had been moved by a church service that stirred something deep within me, urging me to live with greater purpose. And now, here was this gentle creature, a quiet messenger, as if to reinforce the very thing I had been reflecting on.

I sat by the window, watching that little mourning dove for more than an hour, unable to pull myself away. I wasn’t sure why, exactly. It wasn’t as if she was doing anything remarkable—just perching there, ruffling her feathers now and then, tilting her head as if she were watching me, too. 

Tears welled in my eyes, not from sadness but from the overwhelming realization of just how intimately God knows me. That He would send something as simple as this—a quiet, unassuming bird—to sit outside my window, as if just for me. As if to say, I see you. I know you. I delight in you.

It wasn’t a grand miracle or a thundering revelation, but it didn’t need to be. It was a whisper of love, a reminder that I am never alone. That He is always with me, understanding me in ways no one else ever could. And in that still moment, with only the dove and my thoughts, I felt loved.

Our God is a God of love, woven into the very fabric of our lives in ways we often overlook. How many times do moments like this unfold—small, quiet happenings that we dismiss as mere coincidence? A familiar song playing at just the right time, a kind word from a stranger on a hard day, a delicate mourning dove appearing where she shouldn’t be.

But if we pause, if we look beyond the surface, we begin to see the deeper truth. These aren’t random occurrences. They are whispers of love from a God who knows us intimately, who delights in showing us He is near. They are gentle reminders that we are never forgotten, never unseen. And when we truly open our hearts to notice them, we realize—we are deeply, unfathomably loved.


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With that thought, a few truths rose to the surface.  Important, encouraging reminders about the nature of His love. Love that is constant, not fleeting. Love that sees us, even in our quietest moments. Love that reaches us in ways we might not expect.  

1. His Love is Never-Ending

God’s love is unwavering, constant as the rising sun. It does not shift with the tides of our failures or fade with the weight of our mistakes. 

Imagine being Peter in those final, heavy hours before the crucifixion. The air was thick with tension, a weight pressing down on the disciples as the reality of Jesus’ words began to sink in. For three years, Peter had walked beside Him—watching, learning, believing with all his heart that this was the Messiah. And now, Jesus was speaking of His departure, of suffering and death. It was unthinkable. Impossible.

Peter’s heart clenched as he listened. He couldn’t bear the thought of losing Jesus, of standing in a world where his Savior was no longer beside him. But then Jesus turned to him, His eyes steady, His voice solemn.

"Before the rooster crows, you will deny me three times."

The words hit like a blow. Peter shook his head, heat rising in his chest. No. Impossible. Never, Lord. His loyalty was unshakable, his faith unbreakable. He would die before he denied the One he loved.

And yet, Peter could not have imagined what was coming. The chaos, the fear, the sheer terror of that long, dark night. The betrayal, the torchlight flickering in the garden, the sound of soldiers’ footsteps against the earth. He had drawn his sword to fight for Jesus—he was ready to defend Him to the death. But then, in the blink of an eye, Jesus was taken. Arrested. Bound. Led away.

And in an instant, the bravest disciple found himself swallowed by fear.

Peter had probably always imagined that if he were ever tested, it would be in some grand, defining moment—a trial before the Romans, where he would boldly stand for Jesus, unshaken, unwavering. Perhaps, if that had been the case, he would have steeled himself, ready to fight, ready to die. But the enemy is cunning, striking not with brute force, but with subtlety.

Peter’s test didn’t come in the form of a courtroom or a council of powerful men. No shackles were placed on his wrists, no blade pressed to his throat. Instead, it came in the form of a servant girl—a figure so insignificant that Peter hardly thought before he spoke.

"You were with Him, weren’t you?"

The words caught him off guard. The firelight flickered, shadows dancing on the walls. Eyes turned toward him. For the first time that night, fear curled its fingers around his throat.

"I don’t know what you’re talking about."

The words left his lips before he even realized he was saying them.

And then, again. Another voice, another accusation.

"You’re one of His disciples."

"No, I am not."

A third time. Urgent now, insistent.

"I can tell by your accent—you were with Him!"

And then, the final, crushing denial—loud, forceful, desperate.

"I swear, I do not know the man!"

And as the last syllable fell from his tongue, the night split open with the sharp, piercing cry of a rooster.

The sound must have sent ice through his veins. The words of Jesus came rushing back like a tidal wave, drowning him in shame. His shoulders slumped, his breath caught in his chest. He had done the unthinkable.

Not in battle. Not before rulers or soldiers. But in the quiet deception of an ordinary moment—just as the enemy had planned.  Surely, a betrayal of this magnitude—against God Himself—should warrant the gravest punishment. High treason. Condemnation. Execution, even.

Imagine it for yourself. One of your closest friends, your most trusted confidant—the one who swore loyalty above all others—turning his back on you in your moment of greatest need. Not just once, not twice, but three times. And not under threat of torture or death, but at the mere questioning of a servant girl who posed no threat, no consequence.

"I don’t know Him."

Perhaps that’s what makes it all the more astonishing. Of all the things the angel could have said at the empty tomb, of all the names he could have mentioned, he spoke a message both specific and deliberate:

"But go, tell His disciples—and Peter—that He is going ahead of you into Galilee. There you will see Him, just as He told you."
—Mark 16:7 (NIV)

And Peter.

Why Peter? Of all people? The one who had failed Jesus so completely? The one who had sworn undying loyalty, only to crumble under pressure? Shouldn’t his name have been erased from the list of disciples, his place among them revoked? He had denied his Lord—not just once, but three times. If ever there was a moment that revealed a man’s true colors, surely, it was that night in the courtyard. 

But we forget, this is a God whose love is never-ending.

The angel’s words weren’t a mistake. They were intentional. Jesus knew Peter’s shame. He knew the weight of regret was crushing him. And yet, instead of condemnation, He sent an invitation. Instead of rejection, He extended restoration.

Peter’s failure wasn’t the end of the story.

Because grace had the final word.

And that same grace writes our story, too. No failure is too great. No betrayal too deep. No shame too overwhelming for the love of a Savior who calls us by name, even when we least deserve it. 



2. His Grace is Sufficient

If there’s one lesson God has been weaving into the fabric of my heart, it’s this: His grace is enough.

I wish I could say I embrace that truth easily, but the reality is, I’m a classic Type A personality. I thrive on structure, on schedules, on things being done the right way—the first time, every time. There’s a certain comfort in control, in knowing that everything is in its place, running on time, meeting expectations. But that same drive can be a relentless taskmaster.

I don’t tolerate imperfections in myself well. Every mistake feels magnified. Every missed deadline, every flaw, every shortcoming sits heavy on my shoulders. And it’s not just with myself.  I struggle with unmet expectations in others, too. It’s a stressful way to live, always chasing a standard of perfection that was never mine to reach in the first place.

But then, God whispers: My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness. (2 Corinthians 12:9)

Grace. Undeserved, unearned, freely given.

God doesn’t demand perfection from me. He doesn’t measure my worth by my productivity or my ability to hold everything together. He sees the striving, the exhaustion, the pressure I put on myself—and He offers something better.

Rest.

Freedom.

Grace that meets me in my imperfection and says, You are still loved. You are still mine. And that is enough.

Whatever the struggle, whatever the battle raging within you, God’s grace is sufficient.  The enemy is relentless. He prowls like a lion, waiting for the perfect moment to strike. He whispers lies, plants doubt, and sends storms meant to shake our foundation. But here’s the truth he doesn’t want us to remember: he is already defeated.

The trials you face are not just random hardships; they are calculated attempts by Satan to wear you down, to steal your joy, and to pull you away from the One who holds you steady. But there is a place where he cannot reach you—a refuge beneath the protective cloud of God’s glory and grace.

"Resist him, steadfast in the faith." (1 Peter 5:9)

Satan may roar, but he has no real power over a heart that is anchored in Christ. He can shake the ground beneath you, but he cannot break you when you stand firm in faith. He can try to wound, but he cannot destroy. Because when you keep your eyes on Jesus, when you trust in the strength of His grace, you stand under the covering of a God who never loses a battle.

So walk in faith. Rest in His protection. And know that no scheme of the enemy can ever separate you from the love and power of your Savior.

3. His Love Has No Record of Wrongs

About a decade ago, I had an idea—one that, at the time, seemed like a great way to strengthen my faith. I decided to keep a prayer checklist. I would write down every prayer request and place a little checkbox beside each one, ready to mark them off as God answered. I wanted to measure His faithfulness in a tangible way. Was He answering one prayer a week? Ten? I was determined to find out.

At first, it felt purposeful, even exciting. But before long, my time with God became more of a transaction than a relationship. Night after night, I would go through my list, reading off my requests like a grocery receipt, tallying up the ones that had been fulfilled. I’d drone through my prayers, repeating the same words, and more often than not, I’d find myself struggling to stay awake before I even reached the end of my list. If I was bored, I could only imagine how God felt.

And then, something hit me.

Who was I to keep score on God?

A prideful heart doesn’t seek the Lord.  It seeks results. I wasn’t coming to God in surrender; I was coming with expectations, as if He were a cosmic vending machine meant to produce answers on my timeline. But God isn’t interested in being measured. He isn’t in the business of filling quotas or proving Himself to me like some kind of divine statistic.

Because love keeps no record of wrongs—and neither does He.

God never holds my failures against me. He doesn’t keep a ledger of my mistakes, tallying up my wrongs like some kind of divine accountant. He doesn’t weigh my worth against my achievements, waiting to see if the good will somehow outweigh the bad. His love isn’t transactional; it’s relational. It’s not about perfection. It’s about grace.

And thank goodness for that.

Because if He did keep a record, my list wouldn’t be pretty.

Cheeto addiction? Check.
Short-tempered?  Check.
Unforgiving? Check.
One too many margaritas in my twenties? Double check.

And those are just the light offenses, the things I can admit without cringing. The deeper failures, the ones I’d rather not say out loud, the regrets that still sting if I think too long about them—oh, I don’t even want to imagine them written down.

But here’s the miracle: God doesn’t write them down. He doesn’t hold them over my head. He doesn’t point to my past and say, Look what you did.

Instead, He says, Look at what I’ve done for you.

Because His love isn’t about keeping score.  It’s about wiping the slate clean. And without that grace, I could never survive.

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